How to Help Your Man Improve His Sex Drive?
It is generally believed that men want constant sex. But, we now live in the late 2010s which means that women can outwardly express their desire for some sexy time as well.
Men are conditioned to be performers and if they think that they cannot perform or bring their A-game to the table, then they generally shy away from doing anything at all. The same can be said when it comes to sex.
Erectile dysfunction is quite common in men, especially those that are over the age of 35. Although it is a treatable condition, its psychological implications can hamper a man’s desire for sex.
If your man generally wants to watch Netflix as opposed to having sex with you, do not chastise him. Remember that a decrease in libido can be caused by psychological and physiological factors, so being more forgiving towards their condition really helps in solving the problem.
Even though doctors may tell you to give him some male enhancement pills, there are also other approaches that can help as well. I will go over some ways in this article.
Give Him Some Time
According to sex therapist, Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D., it is rare for couples to be on the same page sexually speaking. There are always going to be certain periods of time where one desires sex and the other, not so much. This thing is normal and is not usually a cause for concern.
If your man doesn’t have a desire for sex, you may want to look into his life. For example, he might have gotten too stressed at work or perhaps there is something that’s bothering him. If those things are the culprits, give him some time to process things.
Be a Team Player
Your approach to helping your man should be planned carefully as anything you can say could potentially lead to more stress and thus, a lower desire for sex.
If you feel sad because you are not getting as much sex as you want, talk to him in a mild and calm manner and make sure that your tone is not an accusatory one.
Furthermore, it is also helpful that you create “I” statements rather than “we” to address the situation. For instance, letting him know by saying “I feel like we’re not having sex as often as we used to” is much better than telling him any other way.
Take the First Step
According to a 2012 study done by the researchers of the University of Texas, women who are in love are actually ones that do not initiate the sex. In other words, they want their men to take the first step.
Well, if you are having problems with sex, then initiating it is not a bad idea at all. For far too long, we’ve lived in a society where women should act tamer than men. But, now is the time to become more bold and adventurous.
If you just wait for your man to take the first step, it could lead to further disappointments for both parties. Take the initiative and take action.